22.09.2015 13:44
Ein paar überaschende Einsichten, was uns wirklich glücklich macht.
Leider ist der Ton an einer Stelle kaputt.
Die Minute ab 26:40:
I didn’t say don’t have children; I didn’t say you’d be happier if you didn’t have them. Remember what I said was that the people with them don’t seem to be as happy and surely not happier than people without. But that doesn’t mean that if you didn’t have children then you’d be like the people who chose not to. We can’t do random assignment experiments like “you’ll have kids” and “you won’t.” [..] It may well be that people who want children are happier and once they have them it decreases their happiness [..] bigger decrease. Wanting children may be the disease that makes us unhappy [...] than it is to have them. This sounds like I have been saying something bad about children but I haven’t. I’ve been saying something bad about you. (laugh). Now I’m suddenly much more popular. Truly. Now we know the gap, the happiness gap between people who do and do not have children, is very large in some countries like mine and much smaller in others. I don’t know which; I should have looked it up before I came. What that means is that it has something to do with the way we parent children.
Hätte ich nur damals nicht diesen Unsinn geglaubt, dass Kinder so einfach sind und so glücklich machen. Dann hätten mich nicht diese Versagens- und Schuldgefühle geplagt.
Und wenn man dann noch versucht, gut im Job zu sein, das Haus und den Garten schön zu haben, seine Hobbies nicht zu vernachlässigen, gesund zu essen, weiterhin Sport zu treiben, ist der Burnout vorprogrammiert. Realistische Erwartungen sind da wirklich wichtig. Für mich ist es seitdem viel leichter geworden.
Leider ist der Ton an einer Stelle kaputt.
Die Minute ab 26:40:
I didn’t say don’t have children; I didn’t say you’d be happier if you didn’t have them. Remember what I said was that the people with them don’t seem to be as happy and surely not happier than people without. But that doesn’t mean that if you didn’t have children then you’d be like the people who chose not to. We can’t do random assignment experiments like “you’ll have kids” and “you won’t.” [..] It may well be that people who want children are happier and once they have them it decreases their happiness [..] bigger decrease. Wanting children may be the disease that makes us unhappy [...] than it is to have them. This sounds like I have been saying something bad about children but I haven’t. I’ve been saying something bad about you. (laugh). Now I’m suddenly much more popular. Truly. Now we know the gap, the happiness gap between people who do and do not have children, is very large in some countries like mine and much smaller in others. I don’t know which; I should have looked it up before I came. What that means is that it has something to do with the way we parent children.
Hätte ich nur damals nicht diesen Unsinn geglaubt, dass Kinder so einfach sind und so glücklich machen. Dann hätten mich nicht diese Versagens- und Schuldgefühle geplagt.
Und wenn man dann noch versucht, gut im Job zu sein, das Haus und den Garten schön zu haben, seine Hobbies nicht zu vernachlässigen, gesund zu essen, weiterhin Sport zu treiben, ist der Burnout vorprogrammiert. Realistische Erwartungen sind da wirklich wichtig. Für mich ist es seitdem viel leichter geworden.